I want to be perfect. I want to do the right thing. I want to say the perfect thing that is both up-lifting and life changing. And when I don’t, which is most of the time, I relive the moment wondering why I was inactive, judgmental, or ineffective.
Because of this desire to be perfect and knowledge that I’m not, I am acutely aware of the need for a community to help me be a better minister, leader, parent. I also appreciate resources that are written with abundant grace and compassion. Not “you must do this to have an impact for Christ” but “God is big, here’s a wide target to aim for.”
I have found The Sticky Faith Guide for Your Family by Dr. Kara E. Powell to be a great resource in my ministry and in my family. It’s a follow-up resource to a study conducted by Fuller Youth Institute to discover the steps that churches and families could take to help set young people on a trajectory of lasting faith. It boils down to ways to surround young people with relationships that help them see, experience, and talk about Christ and their own life’s value.
The Sticky Faith Guide for Your Family is a resource to put in parent’s hands to encourage intentional and faithful memories and conversations. It’s a resource to help grandparents and senior adults to brainstorm meaningful ways they can be in relationship with young people, and it’s a resource to explore ways to prepare high school students to find a faith home of their own.
In practice, our church creates opportunities for “Sticky Faith” by hosting family mini-sessions during the summer instead of Vacation Bible School. Families share a meal together and then while kids have a lesson, parents meet to explore how holidays can be sacred time. The high school seniors have adult mentors who attend special life-skills workshops together during youth group.
And at home, I have incorporated daily conversations of grace and forgiveness with my children and spouse. We pray over our Christmas cards from November until Easter. I passed on the grandparent chapter to our parents and encouraged them to pray with and for my children as well as share their faith journey.
I know all of these things could and do happen without Sticky Faith, but for me, I need that graceful reminder and ideas to perk my own brainstorming.
Check out https://fulleryouthinstitute.org/stickyfaith for many great resources and blog posts.